Definition, "Support System," a network of people who provide an individual with practical or emotional support.
How often do you think about the amount of people you come in contact with and affect on a regular basis? Some strangers, friends, family members, co-workers, having all these human interactions throughout our day is so vital to our health yet over 60% of adults in the United States report feeling lonely. Young adults between the ages of 18 and 22 are the loneliest age group. The number of people who live alone has increased by over 30% in the last few decades.
Loneliness is a universal human experience that can affect anyone, regardless of age, gender, or social status. It is a feeling of isolation or disconnection from others, and it can have serious physical and mental health consequences.
Personally, this subject is something I care a lot about and am very subject to the negative effects of isolation and loneliness. It's something I've worked really hard on with my therapist over the last couple of years... But it's not anything to be ashamed about. Holding in loneliness feeds into a deeper depressed state.
Depressed ---> Deep Rest. (Read that again)
But who do we turn to when we need to hear the truth but in a compassionate way. To be held accountable, but in a loving way. Who can challenge you, but in a respectful way. That's where our Support System is really important in this crazy thing we call LIFE.
Research has shown that there are tremendous benefits in having a network of supportive relationships: those with robust social support networks have better health, longer lives, and report higher well-being. Friends and loved ones can make you more resilient in times of stress, setback, or loss and they can also make the good times even better.
How do I develop a solid Support System?
Friends, family, and coworkers are all obvious individuals who could be in our support network, but with an open mind, you may find those relationships may already exist.
Strengthen your existing relationships-
Are there people you know who you would like to know better? Start reaching out and strengthening these relationships. Even if they aren’t local to you, you can set up virtual connections. Try to make reaching out a habit, such as setting aside a certain hour a week that you’ll use to nurture your network, in order to make it easier to sustain.
Find others who share similar interests-
Whether you're a gym guy like me or taking your dog to the park, there are other people who share your interests. Sharing passions is an excellent way to find people who can support you and who you can support right back. It can be scary to meet new people, but remember: if you’re nervous, so are they.
Finally, our Support System should be there for us when the times are tough and when the times are great! And likewise for those who consider you to be in their network as well. Being a good person goes a long way, and the world needs more supportive, caring, and compassionate people, now more than ever. Thank you for being you :)
-Nico.
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